Honestly I think that was for the best. N I'm a lesbian mom and a lawyer who used to practice in this area. They offer both washed and unwashed sperm, donor release and anoymous donors, have great information about fertility and insemination, run a variety of classes and support groups my partner just attended one on talking to your child bank berkeley donor sperm donor inseminationand they have a sibling program for people wanting a second or third child using the same donor. We know many people with known donors in various family configurations for whom their arrangement has worked with great success and joy, and in many ways we were drawn to using a known donor. According to Alice Ruby:
Lots of kids don't really resemble one parent or another. Hiding this information is an unfair position in which to put you and an insult to the intelligence of his family. It is probably a good idea to get any legal issues regarding parental rights in writing.
I say just keep up the light-hearted comebacks--if you choose not disclose your fertility struggles, then it's none of their business. Even if people notice or comment that she does not resemble him, they will probably just be making idle conversation as people tend to do about such topics-- I really doubt anyone would truly be questioning your husband's paternity. I think i would respect your husband's wishes and stay mum.